Personal Comments

After coming across these few articles from the strait times online, i cannot but help question the problem of teenage sex in Singapore. Is sex really such a need at such a tender age? From the articles, many have quote statistics from surveys done over the years and it has shown that many have started having sex since they were 15, which is the same age as me. This leads me on to wonder why do they start having sex so early? Shouldn't it be something that is supposed to be kept and only to be given after marriage? I personally know a few friends who had had sex before. The only reason they could give me was that they wanted to experiment with it. They said that they just wanted to have fun and maybe that really is the reason why many teenagers do it.



But that is only a reason for something else. I personally think that msot teenagers these days have sex is the same as the reason why they get girlfriends and boyfriends. In such a IT-savvy world, the media is everywhere and whatever the media shows becomes real life. The media always show love and sex and most shows revolve around it and that it why teenagers are affected by it. In shows where they show love scenes over and over again will only lead teenagers to wondering more and more about it. Teenagers being young and adventurous would find themself a partner at such a young age. Then with media, peers would naturally tease about this and that and talk about love with their boyfriends or girlfriends. This gives the teens pressure to find a partner too. But when a daring pair tries something different and others gets wind of it, they want to try it too. Trying it for the sake of trying it is not what they should be doing but the more they are exposed to it, the more they want to try it.



With so much peer pressure and media around, parents and teachers are not doing the least to help. Modern day parents seldom talk to their children about this kind of things which apparently seem taboo to them. They would always think that it would become something that would get to them naturally. But what they think always never happens. Children start to become overly curious about such a unknown topic that they try to find out more on their own. They start searching about it on the web and thats where they fall into the web of internet pornography. The schools also think that by giving lessons once in a while about such topics would help increase awareness about the problem and give the teenagers an idea about what's going on. But what the teachers are actually doing are telling the students the hard facts and not connecting to them about what its really like. This just gives rise to more and more problems.



I think that parents should be more open to their children about such topics. It is because the lack of knowledge on this topics that cause their children to go venture on their own into it. Having known friends who have tried it for themselves, many of them seem to be neutral about it. They seem to feel that its a normal procedure and that they just experienced a part of life earlier. Few or none of them i know have been emotionally scarred by it.